Change disadvantages
It is hard to evaluate others’ personality, because everyone is complicated. Just as someone has said, “Do not evaluate me brusquely, what you knew just my name, not my story; what you heard of just what I did, not what I experienced.” Hardly do people have time and interest to observe and have patient to know about others. But we can know about ourselves and it is a good way to improve ourselves if we ponder deeply over ourselves to find out own disadvantages regularly, which was told to me by my senior high school teacher.
As for me, I really have thought deeply about myself before, but I am not sure what I am like indeed; I can imagine myself in any way if I want. Once I was so confused when I felt the world was such complicated that I wrote a statement in my QQ zone, asking my friends to described me; because I wanted to change my unaware shortcomings. This action, however, made no sense even though I asked them to express their thoughts honestly. Either their comments were just kidding or were a ruck of praise worlds.
It seems hard for me to know myself, but in the daily life, good friends’ words can remind me of my shortcomings. Just as one day, my friend told me that I used to shake my wrist, which is not a good behavior. I was confused with that, because I had never realized it. Until one day she said,” see? ” I was awkward and determined to drop this bad habit. I tried hard to control myself when I talked with someone. Then I hardly did it until now.
Compared to changing my bad behavior, improving my bad personality is more difficult. I have kept on trying to change since I knew I am impulsive. I cannot control my feelings and am easy to get angry, which hurts my relationship with others, especially my good friends. I can control my anger now but regrettably just for a little while. But I believe I can success one day.
Personality and behavior are two of the important factors which form what we are. If we can realize own disadvantages and have determination to correct them, whether it is easy or difficult, we will improve ourselves to be what we dreamed to be.
I agree it is difficult to eliminate our disadvantages, and it also takes a long time to change ourselves. I think everyone has shortcomings, and we cannot change all of the shortcomings. Sometimes good friend does remind us of our disadvantages which cannot be found by ourselves. As for me, I do not want to be a perfect person, and I think sometimes shortcoming is necessary for me. So strange, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteyes, why not? I think most people are trying to be as perfect as they can. i really cannot think out why your shortcomings are necessay for you.
DeleteI agree with you that everyone is complicated. Sometimes I am also confused about what kind of a person I am on earth. Maybe in different situations, a person can have different personalities.
ReplyDeleteYes, everything is changing all the time,but the truth that what we really are cannot be replace, I think.
DeleteYou are lucky to know more about yourself. Best friends are those who are willing to tell you your bad aspects. I also feel lucky to have those friends, but it is hard to change some habits. I will try hard and I hope you will keep improvIng yourself.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your encouragement, and every one is trying to change their nagetive habits, so as long as we are trying, we can be success one day.
DeleteDon't worry, Wei Dian. We've been working hard to improve ourselves but no one can be perfect. To me, if we can all try our best to respect the others and accept them as they are (with their disadvantages), all our lives will be easy; i.e. we don't have to try that hard to change ourselves.
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