Personality Percieved in Different Ways

  A person's personality can hardly be defined, because while the person thinks he or she is like this, others may consider him or her as totally different one. This case has happened in our class this week. Actually, one's personality is perceived by two objects: other people and oneself. These two objects use different way to judge one's personality. Rigorously speaking, the other people can only perceive someone by his behavior, as human beings do not have the ability to read others's mind; this so called 'behavior' has a very wide domain including one's habits, gesture, facial expression, words spoken out, etc. That is to say, one's personality is judged via one's behavior by others. However, While others know one's personality by one's behavior, a person(supposed a male) perceives his own personality by feeling it. Usually, people will not judge themselves by evaluating their own behaviors, instead, when they are asked to depict their personality, they may begin with the words"I think I am a ...". Their perception on their personality is based on their feelings. For example, a person who always believe things will be better may consider himself a optimistic person, because he can feel that he usually think in a positive way. However, when he discusses a plan with others, he may point out some possible restricting factors many times, and thus others may think he is a pessimistic person due to his behavior. Yet, even he finds out so many restricting factors, he still believes this plan will work out. This case apparently shows the different ways others and he himself use to percept his personality. Therefore, how we see ourselves may not be the same as how others do. One's personality can be perceived differently between oneself and others.